Divorce is a difficult process in the most ideal of situations. Divorce can become much worse if it is a high conflict divorce in Arizona. Although you may not feel in control during a high conflict divorce, you actually have more control over your high conflict divorce than you may think.
We have represented numerous clients in high conflict divorce cases throughout Arizona and want to share some of the things you should be thinking about if you are feeling stuck in a high conflict divorce.
First, let’s talk about what happens in a high conflict divorce in Arizona. Most of the conflict and fighting in a high conflict divorce case is focused on child custody and parenting time disputes. Your children are powerless to stop the fighting between parents, but they also feel the brunt of that conflict. A divorce can be damaging to a child.
A high conflict divorce can be much more damaging, so think about your children and their feelings about the fighting that is going on between their parents.
Some high conflict cases involving domestic violence or child abuse. These types of cases are the most troublesome because there is a genuine need to protect children from harm. When it comes to protecting children from abuse or from witnessing domestic violence, it is important to take whatever steps are legally possible to protect your children from that abuse. Unfortunately, such cases are high conflict and will remain so until the children are protected from that source of harm.
How to Act in a High Conflict Divorce
You need to understand you are in complete control over how you conduct yourself in a divorce. When faced with a lot of hostility and conflict, you can choose to shut down, fight back, or choose a more conciliatory yet firm voice when communicating with your spouse.
We have often told our clients that we define our character not by how we act when things are going well in our life but, instead, how we conduct ourselves when things are at their worst. It takes a lot of discipline and character to conduct ourselves professionally when faced with a hostile spouse, but that discipline results in our ability to control how our hostile spouse’s words and conduct impact how we act.
Most people instinctively react negatively when our spouse or his or her attorney is being hostile towards us. Engaging in mutually hostile communications does nothing but upset you and escalates the tension even further. To protect yourself, consider creating healthy boundaries in your communication with your spouse.
Consider blocking your spouse from text messages and informing him or her that you no longer accept text messages from him or her. Consider telling your spouse he or she may communicate with you by email only, that you will check your email one time per day at a specified time, and that you will respond to all emails in a single email response. This will protect you from being bombarded on a constant basis with communications from your spouse.
Hire the Right High Conflict Divorce Attorney
Take some control over the attorney you hire in a high conflict divorce. We have personally witnessed cases escalate from divorce to a high conflict divorce for the sole reason that the attorney representing the other spouse was extremely hostile.
In fact, there are divorce attorneys in Arizona who are well known for doing nothing but take unreasonable positions and act outwardly hostile to the opposing party and opposing counsel in every case they take. There was actually a situation where two such attorneys got into a fistfight outside the Maricopa County Superior Court after a hearing.
They justify their actions under the guise of being a “diligent” attorney, which is nonsense. A hostile divorce attorney will cost you and your spouse tens of thousands of dollars in unnecessary attorney fees. You cannot control who your spouse hires to represent him or her, but you can control the decision who you decide to retain as your counsel.
Consider the proposition that the toughest lawyer in the room may be the quietest one in the room until it comes to appearing before your judge. Consider the smartest divorce attorney in the room may have the least to say until he or she argues your case to your judge.
Consider the strongest lawyer in the room may be the one who can win your case using a strategic litigation strategy instead of the lawyer who throws allegations around without any supportive evidence to substantiate their ridiculous claims.
If you have questions about a high conflict divorce in Arizona, you should seriously consider contacting the attorneys at Hildebrand Law, PC. Our Arizona divorce and family law attorneys have over 100 years of combined experience successfully representing clients in divorce and family law cases.
Our family law firm has earned numerous awards such as US News and World Reports Best Arizona Family Law Firm, US News and World Report Best Divorce Attorneys, “Best of the Valley” by Arizona Foothills readers, and “Best Arizona Divorce Law Firms” by North Scottsdale Magazine.
Call us today at (480)305-8300 or reach out to us through our appointment scheduling form to schedule your personalized consultation and turn your divorce or family law case around today.
More Articles About Divorce in Arizona
- ARIZONA DIVORCE PRACTICE
- CAN MY SPOUSE BE ORDERED TO PAY MY ATTORNEY FEES IN ARIZONA
- HOW TO APPEAL A DIVORCE DECREE IN ARIZONA
- MISLED INTO SIGNING DIVORCE SETTLEMENT IN ARIZONA
- MODIFYING A DIVORCE DECREE IN ARIZONA
- WHY MEDIATE YOUR DIVORCE IN ARIZONA
- HOW TO PREPARE FOR DIVORCE MEDIATION IN ARIZONA
- FUNNY DIVORCE QUOTES IN ARIZONA
- LEARN ABOUT UNCONTESTED DIVORCE IN ARIZONA
- ARIZONA DIVORCE LAWS
- EFFECTS OF DIVORCE ON CHILDREN IN ARIZONA
- DIVORCE STATISTICS IN ARIZONA
- PARENTING CLASS DURING A DIVORCE IN ARIZONA
- MERGER OR INCORPORATION OF SETTLEMENT AGREEMENT IN ARIZONA
- HIGH NET WORTH DIVORCE ARIZONA
- HIGH ASSET DIVORCE IN ARIZONA
- COMPLEX DIVORCE CASES IN ARIZONA
- SEALING COURT RECORDS IN AN AZ DIVORCE
- REASONS TO FILE FOR DIVORCE IN ARIZONA
- HOW MUCH DOES A DIVORCE COST IN ARIZONA
- ARIZONA DIVORCE RECORDS SEARCH
- DIVORCE IN ARIZONA WITHOUT CHILDREN
- DOMESTIC VIOLENCE AND DIVORCE IN ARIZONA
- MILITARY DIVORCE LAWS IN ARIZONA
- GUIDE TO DIVORCE FOR MEN IN ARIZONA
- COPING WITH DIVORCE IN ARIZONA
- DIVORCE COURT JURISDICTION ARISES FROM STATUTES IN ARIZONA
- ARIZONA DIVORCE LAWS ON ADULTERY
- FAILURE TO INCLUDE AN ISSUE IN AN ARIZONA DIVORCE
- SOCIAL MEDIA EVIDENCE IN DIVORCE IN ARIZONA
- WHAT TO DO WHEN SERVED WITH DIVORCE PAPERS IN ARIZONA
- SEVEN STEPS OF THE ARIZONA DIVORCE PROCESS: ULTIMATE GUIDE TO DIVORCE
- CHANGE TO MAIDEN NAME AFTER DIVORCE IN ARIZONA
- STOP AN ARIZONA DIVORCE
- ARIZONA DIVORCE DEBT
- MARITAL SETTLEMENT AGREEMENT IN ARIZONA
- SELLING COMMUNITY PROPERTY DURING A DIVORCE IN ARIZONA
- HOW TO OBTAIN A DIVORCE AFTER LEGAL SEPARATION IN ARIZONA
- WHAT REASONS DO I NEED TO OBTAIN A DIVORCE IN A COVENANT MARRIAGE IN ARIZONA
- CONVERT TO A COVENANT MARRIAGE IN ARIZONA
- WHAT IS A COVENANT MARRIAGE IN ARIZONA
- WHAT HAPPENS IF THE DIVORCE CASE GOES TO TRIAL IN ARIZONA
- HOW IS A DIVORCE FINALIZED IN ARIZONA
- DIVORCE CASE IS ON THE INACTIVE CALENDAR IN ARIZONA
- WHAT IS A FAMILY LAW MASTER IN AN ARIZONA DIVORCE CASE
- DOES THE COURT OFFER SERVICES TO SAVE A MARRIAGE IN ARIZONA
- WHAT IS A DEFAULT DIVORCE IN ARIZONA
- SERVED WITH DIVORCE PAPERS IN ARIZONA
- HOW LONG DOES UNCONTESTED DIVORCE TAKE IN ARIZONA
- CAN I STOP A DIVORCE IN ARIZONA IF I CHANGE MY MIND
- HOW LONG DOES IT TAKE TO GET TEMPORARY ORDERS IN AN ARIZONA DIVORCE CASE
- ADVANTAGE FOR FILING DIVORCE FIRST IN ARIZONA
- EFFECT OF ADULTERY ON AN ARIZONA DIVORCE
- CAN I REPRESENT MYSELF IN AN ARIZONA DIVORCE CASE
- WHAT IS A TEMPORARY ORDERS HEARING IN ARIZONA
- WHAT HAPPENS AT A TEMPORARY ORDERS HEARING IN ARIZONA
- HOW LONG DOES A CONTESTED DIVORCE TAKE IN ARIZONA
- ARE PRENUPTIAL AGREEMENTS ENFORCEABLE IN ARIZONA
- HOW TO FIND GOOD DIVORCE ATTORNEY IN ARIZONA
- SERVING DIVORCE PAPERS BY PUBLICATION IN ARIZONA
- CUSTODY OF THE FAMILY PET IN A DIVORCE IN ARIZONA
- SAME-SEX DIVORCE IN ARIZONA
- CONCILIATION COURT SERVICES IN ARIZONA
- DIVORCE AND CHILDREN IN ARIZONA
- SEVEN DOCUMENTS YOU NEED TO FILE FOR DIVORCE IN ARIZONA
- DIVORCE SUPPORT GROUPS IN ARIZONA
- QUICK DIVORCE IN ARIZONA
- NO FAULT DIVORCE IN ARIZONA
- HOW TO GET A DIVORCE IN ARIZONA WHEN YOU CANNOT FIND YOUR SPOUSE
- WHAT IS A PRELIMINARY INJUNCTION IN AN ARIZONA DIVORCE
- ARIZONA DIVORCE ATTORNEY REVIEWS
- DISSOLUTION OF MARRIAGE IN ARIZONA: STEPS TO DISSOLVE A MARRIAGE
- SHOULD I KEEP THE HOUSE IN A DIVORCE IN ARIZONA
- HOW LONG DO YOU HAVE TO BE SEPARATED BEFORE DIVORCE IN ARIZONA
- COLLEGE EXPENSES AFTER DIVORCE IN ARIZONA
- VOID AND PROHIBITED MARRIAGES IN ARIZONA
- WHAT HAPPENS AT A RESOLUTION MANAGEMENT CONFERENCE IN ARIZONA
- ARIZONA DIVORCE DOCUMENT PREPARATION SERVICE
- WHAT SHOULD I DO BEFORE FILING DIVORCE IN ARIZONA
- DISMISSAL OF AN APPEAL FOR NOT OBEYING ORDERS IN A DIVORCE IN ARIZONA
- WHAT HAPPENS TO FROZEN EMBRYOS IN A DIVORCE IN ARIZONA
- CORRECTING A MISTAKE IN AN ARIZONA DIVORCE DECREE
- ARE YOU MARRIED TO A NARCISSIST
- DIVORCING A NARCISSIST IN ARIZONA
- FINDING A REALTOR DURING A DIVORCE IN ARIZONA
- ENFORCING A PROMISE IN A DIVORCE IN ARIZONA
- WHEN IS A DIVORCE FINAL TO FILE AN APPEAL IN ARIZONA
- FAILURE TO INCLUDE AN ISSUE IN A PRETRIAL STATEMENT IN ARIZONA
- START DATE FOR TEMPORARY SUPPORT IN ARIZONA
- EFFECT OF CHANGING JUDGES DURING A DIVORCE IN ARIZONA
- FAILURE TO SIGN VERIFICATION OF DIVORCE FORM IN ARIZONA
- CHANGING POSITIONS DURING A DIVORCE TRIAL IN ARIZONA
- HOW TO WORK EFFECTIVELY WITH AN ATTORNEY WHEN YOU DIVORCE A NARCISSIST
- NARCISSIST DIVORCE ADVICE IN ARIZONA
- DEFENSES TO ENFORCEMENT OF A PRENUPTIAL AGREEMENT IN ARIZONA
- CONTESTING A PRENUPTIAL AGREEMENT IN ARIZONA
- CAN A JUDGE REJECT A DIVORCE SETTLEMENT IN ARIZONA
- ARE POSTNUPTIAL AGREEMENTS VALID IN ARIZONA
- INTERNATIONAL DIVORCE IN ARIZONA
- TIPS ON HIRING AN ARIZONA DIVORCE LAWYER
- OPENING BRIEF IN AN ARIZONA FAMILY LAW APPEAL
- DIVORCE TIPS IN ARIZONA
- COMPLETE VERSUS PARTIAL DIVORCE AGREEMENT IN ARIZONA
- DISQUALIFICATION OF ATTORNEY IN AN ARIZONA DIVORCE
- FAILURE TO FILE MARRIAGE LICENSE IN ARIZONA
- LATE DISCLOSURE OF EVIDENCE IN AN ARIZONA DIVORCE CASE
- MISSED COURT DATE IN AN ARIZONA DIVORCE CASE
- COHABITATION AGREEMENTS IN ARIZONA
- FINANCIAL AGREEMENTS BETWEEN UNMARRIED COUPLES IN ARIZONA
- ARIZONA DIVORCE COURT AUTHORITY FOR RELIGIOUS DIVORCE
- PREMARITAL AGREEMENT FROM OTHER STATE IN ARIZONA
- RATIFICATION OF VOIDABLE MARRIAGE IN ARIZONA
- FULL FAITH AND CREDIT AND PERSONAL JURISDICTION IN ARIZONA DIVORCE
- WHAT IS A RULE 69 AGREEMENT IN ARIZONA
- WHAT TO DO DURING A DIVORCE IN ARIZONA
- YOU’RE GETTING A DIVORCE IN ARIZONA, ARE YOU SURE YOU WANT THE HOUSE?
- ENFORCING A PREMARITAL AGREEMENT IN ARIZONA
- ENFORCING UNSIGNED DIVORCE SETTLEMENT IN ARIZONA
- ARIZONA INDUSTRIAL COMMISSION MUST RECOGNIZE VALIDITY OF SUPERIOR COURT RULING REGARDING MARITAL STATUS
- DEATH OF A SPOUSE STOPS A DIVORCE IN ARIZONA
- APPEALING TEMPORARY ORDERS IN ARIZONA
- JURISDICTION ON PROCEDURAL ISSUES IN AN ARIZONA DIVORCE
- CHANGING JUDGES IN AN ARIZONA DIVORCE
- SANCTIONS FOR LEGAL MALPRACTICE IN A DIVORCE IN ARIZONA
- CORROBORATION REQUIRED IN AN ARIZONA FAULT DIVORCE
- MODIFICATION OF SETTLEMENT AGREEMENT IN ARIZONA
- ESTABLISHING EXTRINSIC FRAUD IN AN ARIZONA DIVORCE
- TIME LIMIT TO ENFORCE DIVORCE DECREE IN ARIZONA
- ATTORNEY’S CONFLICT OF INTEREST IN AN ARIZONA DIVORCE
- CONTESTED VS. UNCONTESTED DIVORCES IN ARIZONA
- CHANGING ATTORNEYS DURING A DIVORCE IN ARIZONA
- DIVORCING AN ABUSIVE SPOUSE IN ARIZONA
- STATUTE OF LIMITATIONS ON A DIVORCE DECREE IN ARIZONA
- QUESTIONS TO ASK A DIVORCE LAWYER IN ARIZONA
- SITUATIONS BEST FOR DIVORCE MEDIATION IN ARIZONA
- WHEN IS MEDIATION A BAD IDEA IN ARIZONA
- WHEN IS MEDIATION A GOOD IDEA IN AN ARIZONA DIVORCE
- ATTACKING A POSTNUPTIAL AGREEMENT IN ARIZONA
- UPDATING YOUR ESTATE PLAN AFTER A DIVORCE IN ARIZONA
- DEALING WITH AGGRESSIVE DIVORCE LAWYER IN ARIZONA
- DIVORCING A BIPOLAR SPOUSE IN ARIZONA
- CHOOSING THE RIGHT DIVORCE LAWYER IN ARIZONA
- WHAT YOU NEED TO KNOW ABOUT AN ANNULMENT VERSUS DIVORCE IN ARIZONA
- PROBLEMS WITH AGGRESSIVE DIVORCE LAWYERS IN ARIZONA
- DIVORCING SOMEONE WITH A MENTAL ILLNESS IN ARIZONA
- DIVORCING A PSYCHOPATH IN ARIZONA
- DIVORCING A DEPRESSED SPOUSE IN ARIZONA
- COPING WITH ANXIETY DURING DIVORCE IN ARIZONA
- ESTATE PLANNING AFTER DIVORCE IN ARIZONA
- DIVORCING AN ALCOHOLIC IN ARIZONA
- OBSESSIVE COMPULSIVE PERSONALITY IN AN ARIZONA DIVORCE
- TRAUMATIC STRESS AND DIVORCE IN ARIZONA
- DISSOCIATIVE DISORDER AND DIVORCE IN ARIZONA
- SOMATIC SYMPTOM DISORDER IN A DIVORCE IN ARIZONA
- PERSONALITY DISORDERS IN A DIVORCE IN ARIZONA
- PARANOID PERSONALITY DISORDER IN A DIVORCE IN ARIZONA
- SAVE MONEY ON DIVORCE ATTORNEY FEES IN ARIZONA
- DEALING WITH A LIAR IN A DIVORCE IN ARIZONA
- THE IMPORTANCE OF CONSULTING A FINANCIAL PLANNER BEFORE A DIVORCE IN ARIZONA
- SETTING ASIDE OR MODIFYING DIVORCE DECREE IN ARIZONA
- DUTY OF CANDOR IN A DEFAULT DIVORCE IN ARIZONA
- SOMEONE LIES IN A DIVORCE IN ARIZONA
- DIVORCING A DRUG ADDICT IN ARIZONA
- DIVORCING AN ABUSIVE SPOUSE IN ARIZONA
- FOR THE NEWLY DIVORCED
- APPEALING AN ARBITRATION AWARD IN A DIVORCE IN ARIZONA
- BENEFICIARY DESIGNATIONS AFTER DIVORCE IN ARIZONA
- ATTORNEY FEES ON A JUDGMENT IN A DIVORCE IN ARIZONA
- CONTINUE AZ DIVORCE TRIAL TO HIRE AN ATTORNEY
- PAYOFF IN PRENUPTIAL AGREEMENT ENFORCEABLE IN ARIZONA
- LAW OF THE CASE DOCTRINE IN A DIVORCE IN ARIZONA
- FIXING AN ERROR IN A FAMILY LAW CASE IN ARIZONA
- JUDGE FAILS TO RULE ON A DIVORCE ISSUE IN ARIZONA
- SANCTIONS IN AN ARIZONA FAMILY LAW CASE
- BLAMING DIVORCE ATTORNEY WAIVES PRIVILEGE IN ARIZONA
- PRESERVE CLAIMS FOR A FAMILY LAW APPEAL IN ARIZONA
- FIVE THINGS TO DO TO PREPARE FOR DIVORCE MEDIATION IN ARIZONA
- IS DIVORCE THE BEST OPTION IN ARIZONA
- ASKING YOUR SPOUSE FOR A DIVORCE IN ARIZONA: 5 THINGS YOU NEED TO KNOW
- WHEN DIVORCE IS THE RIGHT CHOICE IN ARIZONA
- DISMISSAL OF INTERNATIONAL DIVORCE IN ARIZONA
- FILING LATE APPLICATION FOR ATTORNEY FEES IN ARIZONA
- SANCTIONS FOR FILING DOCUMENTS IN AN ARIZONA DIVORCE
- CAN YOU LODGE A CONSENT DECREE IN ARIZONA
- SERVICE BY EMAIL IN AN ARIZONA DIVORCE
- WHEN YOU SHOULD FILE FOR BANKRUPTCY BEFORE A DIVORCE IN ARIZONA
- ADVANTAGES OF DIGITAL PRIVACY CLAUSES IN PRENUPTIAL AGREEMENTS
- RESIDENCY REQUIREMENTS FOR A DIVORCE IN ARIZONA
- MOVING OUT OF THE HOUSE DURING A DIVORCE IN ARIZONA
- DIVORCE SUCKS: DECIDING TO DIVORCE IN ARIZONA
- WHAT IS ALTERNATIVE DISPUTE RESOLUTION IN ARIZONA
- PROTECT YOURSELF DURING A DIVORCE IN ARIZONA
- ARIZONA RULE 69 AGREEMENT CONTESTED WITHOUT TRIAL
- JOINING THIRD PARTY IN AN ARIZONA DIVORCE
- WHAT SHOULD I DO BEFORE FILING DIVORCE IN ARIZONA
- EIGHT FINANCIAL MISTAKES TO AVOID WHEN GOING THROUGH A DIVORCE IN AZ
- WHAT TO DO IF YOUR WIFE (OR HUSBAND) WANTS A DIVORCE
- NINE WAYS YOUR SPOUSE CAN HIDE THEIR INCOME BEFORE DIVORCE IN ARIZONA
- WITNESS PREPARATION IN ARIZONA DIVORCE AND CHILD CUSTODY CASES
- HOW SHOULD A MAN PREPARE FOR DIVORCE
- A DEFINITIVE GUIDE TO DEALING WITH A SURPRISE DIVORCE
About the Author: Chris Hildebrand has over 26 years of Arizona family law experience and received awards from US News and World Report, Phoenix Magazine, Arizona Foothills Magazine and others. Visit https://www.hildebrandlaw.com.
Leave a Reply