Dealing With a Liar in a Divorce in Arizona
All too often we have clients who come into the office asking for a divorce or help with a child custody issue. These issues are not only stressful but impact the lives of all the parties involved. Sometimes people may be tempted to lie to protect their own interest because the stakes affect more than just one person. Facing a liar in court can be stressful and sometimes the lie is so great that it can lead to emotional trauma.
Take the High Road
It does not matter how horrible the lie…always take the high road. Taking the high road means not losing your temper or falling for any petty attacks on your character. The moment you resort to name-calling or attacking, you open yourself up
to a credibility issue that may harm your case. Taking the high-road applies in all instances of your life during a family law case. In person, social media, phone calls, emails, and text messages must be of a professional nature.
The best advice any client can receive during a family law case…” go dark on the internet”. Simply stated, refrain from using social media to air out your dirty laundry or attempt to defend yourself from accusations alleged by your spouse. Let your attorney handle all these issues in court.
Proving the Lie
The absolute best way to prove that your spouse is lying is to have evidence. The below list is not an all-inclusive list but an example of some of the items you may want to bring to your attorney when dealing with a liar.
If there are lies as to finances, then you should be prepared to show evidence of the following:
- Bank account information to include:
- Bank statements
- Debt information to include:
- credit card statements
- Income tax returns
- Mortgage information
- Information regarding Retirement accounts
- Bills for your household
- If you are dealing with lies regarding alleged abuse, then have the following documents:
- Police reports
- Text messages
- Social media screenshots
- Mental health records
- Medical records
If you are dealing with lies regarding child custody issues, get the following documents:
- Medical records or mental health records
- Paternity results
- Report cards
- CPS records
Get a lawyer
It can be very difficult dealing with a spouse who lies outside of court let alone in court. Taking the wrong approach with a lying
spouse in court may do your case more harm than good. The best course of action is to employ an attorney who can help you present your evidence and case in a way that allows the court to understand the truth. It is imperative that you make your attorney aware of the lies told by your spouse or potential lies told by your spouse.
Another benefit of hiring an attorney is that you can minimize the contact between you and your spouse. This benefit not only helps protect your interests but allows the attorney to minimize any further manipulation attempts.
Chris Hildebrand wrote this article to ensure everyone has access to information about family law in Arizona. Chris is a divorce and family law attorney at Hildebrand Law, PC. He has over 24 years of Arizona family law experience and has received multiple awards, including US News and World Report “Top Arizona Divorce Attorneys”, Phoenix Magazine “Top Divorce Law Firms”, and Arizona Foothills Magazine “Best of the Valley” award. He believes the policies and procedures he uses to get his clients through a divorce should all be guided by the principles of honesty, integrity, and, quite frankly, actually caring about what his clients are going through in a divorce or family law case. In short, his practice is defined by the success of his clients. He also manages all of the other attorneys at his firm to make sure the outcomes in their clients’ cases are successful as well.
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