Co-Parenting After Divorce in Arizona
Divorce and Co-Parenting in Arizona
There’s an old phrase that isn’t used nearly as often today as it was a few decades ago, “Don’t cry over spilled milk.” It’s an excellent saying to keep in mind when attempting to adjust from married parents to divorced co-parents. It’s a reminder of two things. One, we all spill a little milk now and then. Two, it’s best to let the little things go. It’s also helpful to remember that if there were no conflicts between you and your ex, you’d probably still be married. So take a second now and then to remind yourself that a lot of conflicts that seem inherent in co-parenting situations can be avoided by labeling the small things as “spilled milk” to be mopped up as best you can and put behind you. Don’t expect co-parenting to be the perfect parenting situation.
Parenting, in general, is tough. There aren’t many who would argue when we say that co-parenting is tougher. The first step to making your co-parenting a success is not to throw your hands in the air in despair every time things don’t go as you expected. Instead of getting angry when your co-parenting partner veers off the track you were sure both of you agreed to be on, have a positive attitude. Fix it or move past it.
Co-Parenting After Divorce | Tips You Should Use
Tips on Maximizing the Benefits of Co-Parenting for Your Children:
Tip #1: Accept the things you cannot change. Doing so will free up a lot of mental and emotional energy that you can spend on your children.
Tip #2: Be in the present. Constantly feeling worried and upset about what your ex is doing or not doing keeps you from being in the present with your children. When you are mindful of the current moment, your children benefit.
Tip #3: Make it a point to create a calm, emotionally stable home environment rather than worrying that your ex’s home is going to have a negative impact on your children. Constantly worrying about what you’re ex is not doing right makes it very difficult for you to create the calm, stable home your children need in order to become calm, grounded, stable adults someday.
Your divorce is over, but you have children with your ex, so your relationship with your ex cannot be over. You don’t live together anymore, but the stresses and difficulties that led you to divorce could evolve after the divorce as the co-parenting gets rolling. Prepare yourself for this fact. It will make addressing the difficulties of co-parenting that much easier if you are ready for problems before they arise. Keeping the co-parenting waters calm and smooth is the best way to maximize the benefits for your children.
Chris Hildebrand wrote this article about co-parenting after a divorce in Arizona to ensure everyone has access to information about co-parenting in Arizona. Chris is a family law attorney at Hildebrand Law, PC. He has over 24 years of Arizona family law experience and has received multiple awards, including US News and World Report “Top Arizona Divorce Attorneys”, Phoenix Magazine “Top Divorce Law Firms”, and Arizona Foothills Magazine “Best of the Valley” award. He believes the policies and procedures he uses to get his clients through a child custody case should all be guided by the principles of honesty, integrity, and actually caring about what his clients are going through.